“Just be yourself”
It seems easier said than done.
In one world I have succeeded as an accomplished Latina, first in her family to graduate from college and work in tech. In the other world, I have lost my “heritage” over the years while trying to fit in.
It didn’t start in the United States. It started in Mexico.
Both of my parents grew up in a small town in the Sierra of Oaxaca. They left their home to find a better life. They struggled trying to learn Spanish. They shared their stories of discrimination even in Mexico City. Over the years as they tried to fit in, they stopped speaking their dialect and moved up north. Years later when I went to visit my extended family, I asked my mom why she never taught me their dialect. At the time her reason was that she was busy. Until high school when I was studying race in Mexico, my parents told me the real reason for not teaching me their dialect.